writing doesn’t pay very much, but we do it anyway. art doesn’t pay very much, but we do it anyway. some people get lucky, some people don’t. it appears to boil down to a combination of skill and chance in terms of who gets to make art for a living. i don’t think this needs to be the case, especially now that each of us with an internet connection has the potential to reach the entire world.
i run a podcast/video series that you may know about, and my goal is to figure out what people are doing right. i want so badly to get paid to do the thing i love – to write and to help creative folks make money. but this means i have to first learn how to make money for myself. that means having my day job. that means doing a lot of unpaid prep work.
it is disheartening and i don’t know when this will end, if it ever does. but i hold on to the hope that it will pay off. and my research suggests it just might. and the best i can do in the meantime is to try my best, and to take care of myself in the process.
here’s a link to one of my favorite this american life episodes. it’s about a blind gentleman who learns how to ride a bike. the takeaway is that there is power in believing in someone. you increase the likelihood that your friend will accomplish a task by simply believing in them.
this goes the same in reverse. if your friends believe in you, you are more likely to accomplish your task. belief is an energy, and is contagious. it creates motivation and community. it feels good.
of course, blind faith or false beliefs are destructive. we must always ground our beliefs in evidence and subject our faith to scrutiny. however, sometimes this means that our faith is strengthened in our friends, and ourselves.
negative self-talk is destructive.
“i’m not good enough”
“i don’t matter”
not only are all of these things false, but they are false and pervasive. these thoughts stick in our heads and its hard to shake them. they almost seem to multiply and compound on themselves until our brains are burdened with a cloud of negativity.
guess what? your brain is wrong a lot of the time. you are dope, and there is a lot of evidence of that. we just tend to forget it, or even ignore it.
for me, i try to do my best to combat my negative self talk by being aware of it, and also writing lists of things i am grateful for, things i’m proud of, and things i’m good at. sure, we all need to be critical of ourselves for growth, but talking ourselves down is not helpful at all.
every project has its setbacks. the path is never linear, and success is not clearly defined nor easily achievable. last night i stayed up awake for a bit because i was unsure of what i was doing, or whether or not it was valuable. this is a hard place to be, and i know for a fact that this happens to a majority of my more entrepreneurial friends.
but, i remember that there is hope. for every doubt that i have, there is at least one cheerleader in my court, and one clear example that what i am doing is valuable and meaningful. i try to identify these little victories and bits of positivity in order to maximize them. my friends and family believe in what i do, and so do i. the trouble is marrying these values with a viable business. i recently read this article by gumroad’s ceo sahil lavingia, in which he navigates his own successes and failures that he had to face at a very young age.
we are all being courageous in trying things that we’ve never tried before. and that courage carries us through the moments when we doubt ourselves and our venture. our courage and resilience are paramount in soldiering forward with open eyes and many ideas for making our vision work.
i’m curious what challenges, setbacks, and struggle you are facing. as entrepreneurial folk, we’re often ambling in the dark with no handbook or map. the best thing we can do is try and try again, but i’d like to see if teaming up and working together can clarify the next steps of our ventures.
so, what’s up? what questions do you have for us at the orbit? we interview creative professionals every week, so odds are if we can’t answer your question, at the very least we’ll know where to look. submit your inquiries via this typeform here. no e-mail required, just your name, your locale, and your question. thanks in advance, and i look forward to seeing what you’ve got for us!
a lot of us are trying to learn a new skill set: programming, budgeting, waking up on time, drinking water. even as we are expanding our capabilities, i think it’s important to remember that there are some things you are already good at.
never forget that you likely were born with a superpower. it could be assembling ikea furniture, or making a tube of toothpaste last a really long time. but you never have to start from scratch with your skills, you build upon the ones you already have.